I’m sure that viewings are common most everywhere. Some people call them wakes, some people call them sitting up with the dead and others just call it a viewing. It doesn’t have to be an open casket to be a viewing either. It is kind of like people in Texas calling all soda pops Coke. That’s just what it’s called. This is where everyone goes to the funeral home and they stand around hugging and talking and telling stories about the deceased. Now if it’s a real viewing and it’s an open casket it is mandatory to say things such as “doesn’t he look natural” or “he looks better than he has in years”. There are even a few “she looks just like she did when she was 23” as if you regress in age when you die. A long time ago they would have the viewing at the house and not at the funeral parlor as it was called in my youth. When held at the house it was customary for someone to sit up with the body.
Now I really don’t remember many of these happening. The one I do remember was my friend’s dead grandmother was placed in the dinning room and she had to sit up all night with her mother watching the body. She said it was really scary and she kept waiting for her granny to sit up and tell them all to quit that damn crying and go shell some peas. I had nightmares about this for weeks and so did my friend. I’ve read that the reason they did this in the old days was to keep the rodents away from the body. Working in the nursing home I had many people tell me that they had been body sitting and had the body sit up or pass gas. Now I’m sorry but that would just plain freak me out and I wouldn’t be sitting up with anybody dead or alive.
I tell you this to share one of my family’s stories. I had a step-grandmother. She was a nice lady but we were never close. She was the type of lady who everything in her house was powder puff pink, including her house. My grandfather on the other hand was anything but a powder puff. He was gruff and grumbly and worked hard everyday of his life. He lost my grandmother when they were in their early fifties and immediately married Faye. Faye was very demur and quiet and very prim and proper. Now my family has been accused of many things but prim and proper aren’t on the list. So she was an outcast from the beginning. Another oddity about Faye was that teenagers and young adults seemed to frighten her. She would latch the screen should we show up to visit our grandfather if he were not at home. She wouldn’t invite us in for lemonade and cookies like a normal grandmother, she would instead latch the screen and shew you away. She also did not like strangers of any kind in her home. She would be a complete and totally freak if there were strangers in her home. I took a boyfriend of mine over to visit my grandfather one time and I thought she was going to beat him with a broom just for standing on her welcome mat.
My grandfather was off working one day and Granny Faye, who preferred for us to just call her Faye, decided she would mow the yard in the 100 degree West Texas Heat. Now I should probably mention that she was 80 years old and had really bad arthritis. She put on her pedal pushers and her Grasshopper sneakers and went out to cut the grass to exactly 1 “. She fired up the lawn mower and got about one-fourth of the lawn cut when she killed over with a heart attack. Now we were all sad that this happened as really she was a nice lady and had taken excellent care of our grandfather for over 30 years.
The call went out and sure enough from far and wide on both sides of the family people started appearing at my grandfather’s house. Food was brought in by the truck loads, flowers and cards started arriving and so did the vultures. You know the ones I’m talking about. The ones who show up and don’t leave empty handed. They say things like “Aunt Faye wanted me to have this Hummel statue.” Only that didn’t belong to Aunt Faye it actually belonged to Nanny years before and was by all rights still the possession of my grandfather. You find the rummaging through closets and under beds. They take the toilet paper right out of the bathroom if you don’t watch them and what’s more you never know to whom they are really related. I digress.
My daddy went with my grandfather to the funeral home to set up the viewing. They got there and my grandfather looked at the placard on one of the viewing room of which there are three. He sees a familiar name and said “Oh Bob! Look that’s Old Man Williams” and proceeded to go into the room next to Mr. Williams viewing room. He looked in the casket and cried a little and said “Bob, doesn’t Old Man Williams look good?” My daddy not really paying attention said “yeah he looks good” then walked out of the room and it dawned on him that wasn’t Mr. Williams. “Dad, that isn’t Mr. Williams he is in the room next to this one.” Grandad looked in the casket and said “Yeah I thought he looked too good to be Old Man Williams.”
There was the viewing and then the next day was the funeral and more food and people arrived. The house was packed full of people and they were touching things and picking up pictures and telling stories and laughing, which is not unusual at our family funerals. My daddy, my Auntie V and I were all sitting outside the sliding glass door on the patio enjoying a little breather and drinking some iced tea. All of a sudden the sliding glass door opened all by itself and then slammed shut. A cold breeze swept across the three of us and my aunt looked at us and said “well I guess Faye’s pissed off about there being all those strangers in her house.” Needless to say her daughter and grandson who happened to be sitting across from us did not find this amusing.